February 16th, 2018
Who’da thunk you dudes would be so calliente for the sordid details of my sex life?
The wave of email on last week’s post left me rock hard and I now realize two things:
A. I need to write more about my sex life.
B. I need to continue having a lot of sex.
Crazy travel over the last few weeks: Thankful that my chosen airlines have been kicking ass and are taking good care of me. Loyalty with the airlines works well when it’s shown both ways. I’m always fascinated that the people who fly the least universally complain the most. The system has changed dramatically from the glory days of airline travel. The sooner you realize this, the better off you’ll be. It’s all about spend now, not mileage flown. Road warriors who got their status on a ton of cheapo fares are no longer who the legacy carriers are courting. They want spenders: People who are willing to buy into premium cabins, even if it’s a discounted fare class.
Following up from the last blog, I spent a long weekend back at Amangiri recently. The history of Aman Resorts started in SE Asia, slowly building a portfolio of some of the most private, secluded and genuinely unique hotels in the world. It’s a caliber of resorts- that with pinpoint accuracy- can figure out what their guests want before they ask. Eye for detail is fantastic: What you drink, what temperature you keep your room, how you lay out your overnight bag and toiletries, etc. It’s unreal… And what’s best is that it doesn’t feel intrusive.
Landing at PGA (Page, AZ. Served by one main airline, Great Lakes Airways), Amangiri picks you up in one of their BMW fleet vehicles for the short drive to Canyon Point, UT 25 minutes away. Once you’re on the highway, the immediate sense of being isolated in the desert hits you like a ton of bricks: Red rock, beautiful layering of the earth, the mirror-like Lake Powell and an entire box of crayon colors that you don’t see anywhere else. It’s calming.
Amangiri is built into the side of a mountain using a mix of cement and natural crushed rock, allowing it to age into the same color as the natural environment. It’s smart design. The pool was actually constructed around an existing boulder, brining even more of what’s always been there into the mix. Overall, I’d say Amangiri’s design is incredibly modern and spartan without being cold. For a place with so many hard, clean lines, there’s something quietly inviting about every space you walk into.
At night, the whole property is lit only with large, candle-lit floor lanterns. No bright lights. No noise or light pollution, allowing for what so few of us are regularly able to enjoy: The desert sky and enveloping silence. You see every star. You quickly realize that this level of quiet is deafening. It’s a little intimidating at first but after a couple of nights, you come to appreciate it.
This was my fifth visit to Amangiri and certainly not my last. I’m excited to soon visit a couple of their newer properties, recently opened in the Turks & Caicos (Amanyara) and Dominican Republic (Amanera).
I just got back from a week in Rio de Janeiro for Carnival 2018. Will do a wrap-up on that adventure in the next edition of 15MM. Expect a lot of sex chat, public nudity, Brazil’s love of Grindr and lot of verbal love for eating. What’s most ridiculous about me going to South America is that I came back even more white than when I left. SPF 100 on my face. SPF 70 on the rest of me. Anything that ruthlessly ages and causes cancer can suck a small dick.
Been working with a trainer over the last two months and it’s been paying off: I’m keeping my body fat percentage low and have been adding muscle at a pretty awesome clip: Started at 195 and now to 210. Concentrating on the parts of my body that have usually been my most weak (shoulders, calves, arms) and tightening up things that come easy for me (legs, ass, chest, back). I don’t plan on getting any bigger than I am now, but have really enjoyed having my ass kicked when I’m home in Dallas. It feels like I’m actually accomplishing something.
I’m amused that in my mid-30s, I have the best body I’ve ever had in my life.
While I’ve always had an online Q&A site to take anonymous questions from people, I’m still asked a ton of random things- existential things- through email on a regular basis. A lot of it has nothing to do with the industry, focusing mainly on deeper thought and my views on obtuse things. Googling around a bit, I think I landed on the perfect questionnaire to present these answers in a more streamlined manner.
Without further ado, I present…
1.What is your idea of perfect happiness?
People who are equally as comfortable and happy being quiet as they are being the life of a party.
2.What is your greatest fear?
No longer serving a purpose and/or not being able to find a new one.
3.What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?
The need to please at the expense of my own well-being. Learning to say ‘no’ was one of the greatest things I ever learned to do.
4.What is the trait you most deplore in others?
Negative envy and the ability to too-easily lie to one’s self.
5.Which living person do you most admire?
Not just one person, but people in general: I admire people who work their fingers to the bone to raise a family and provide a solid home. I admire people who give without expecting. Put simply, I admire good people with good hearts.
6.What is your greatest extravagance?
Generosity with those around me. As long as I’ve got it, I’ll keep giving it.
7.What is your current state of mind?
8.What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Valor: The truly smart person realizes when to fight and when to flee. If you spend your whole life looking to win the battle, you’re going to end up with a body full of scars. Know which wars are worth your while.
9.On what occasion do you lie?
When they’ve spent hours getting ready and they still look like an old sofa.
10.What do you most dislike about your appearance?
I don’t dislike anything, but wouldn’t mind if I woke up one day with a different nose or larger lips. While I could fix either of those things immediately, it’s better to learn to be happy with what you’ve got. It could always be worse.
11.Which living person do you most despise?
How about living people? CEOs of drug companies, airlines and cable conglomerates. People who earn so much money that they’ve stopped valuing it as cash dollar, but as power over people.
12.What is the quality you most like in a man?
Intelligent, sharp-witted and kind.
13.What is the quality you most like in a woman?
Discerning, unapologetically smart and strong-willed.
14.Which words or phrases do you most overuse?
Amigo. Heya. Chief.
15.What or who is the greatest love of your life?
I don’t know if I’ve yet met or had the greatest love in my life. For now, I feel very fortunate to surround myself with people who are genuinely concerned for me (and I say that in a good, non-Lindsay Lohan sort of way).
16.When and where were you happiest?
Here and now. I learned a lot in my 20s. My 30s have allowed me to fully take that knowledge and use it. I’m actually looking forward to my 40s thanks to much of what I continue to learn… And Botox.
17.Which talent would you most like to have?
I always wished I could play a string instrument. The cello and violin are wonderful instruments.
18.If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I wish at times I could slow down to enjoy the moment a little more.
19.What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Undergrad. Grad school. And then not using one iota of my education in a traditional sense.
20.If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
I’d love to come back as a well-loved dog or cat. On the more fascinatingly odd side, it might be interesting to come back as someone born into a long-standing fortune (ie, Johnson & Johnson). To have the ability to more easily help large groups of people and truly change the world from a young age would be incredible. To be forced to find yourself outside of your family crest could be a tough thing.
21.Where would you most like to live?
Wintertime in Key West, FL. Summer somewhere where I won’t burn or sweat to death.
22.What is your most treasured possession?
Time at home. Sleeping in my own bed. Waking up with no plans and Netflix.
23.What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
Having brilliant ideas but the lack of drive to accomplish them.
24.What is your favorite occupation?
I think being a NYT theatre critic would be an interesting life. While completely out of vogue with today’s reader, I always thought being a syndicated columnist was a gift of a career.
25.What is your most marked characteristic?
My ability to fearlessly converse with people. I love it.
26.What do you most value in your friends?
Candor. Understanding of the world around them. A great sense of humor.
27.Who are your favorite writers?
Truman Capote. Dave Barry. Tennessee Williams. David Mamet. Sylvia Plath. Toni Morrison. Agatha Christie.
28.Who is your hero of fiction?
Sir Wilfrid Robarts from Witness For The Prosecution.
29.Which historical figure do you most identify with?
30.Who are your heroes in real life?
People who give selflessly. The people that we don’t always hear about who do amazing things.
31.What are your favorite names?
Benjamin. Paul. Sean/Shawn. Phillip. Catherine. Carla. Phyllis.
32.What is it that you most dislike?
People who master giving a one-sided conversation.
33.What is your greatest regret?
Not having more time, in any regard.
34.How would you like to die?
To die young, but as late as possible.
35.What is your motto?
Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work.
As always, my Twitter feed remains the defacto way to keep up with my travels, photos and moment-to-moment world observations. The Q&A is steadily heading towards 1000 answered questions. I’m also adding new content to the online gallery on a near-weekly basis. All free: All the time. To me, monetizing every portion of your life says more about the person than it does about their business acumen. Just because we sell ourselves doesn’t mean we have to embody the literal definition of being complete and total whores.
In a roundabout way, that reminds me of well-worn advice I’ve given: The single most asked question I get is actually from other escorts wanting to know what’s the secret to the sauce. Or, more to be more direct, how have I maintained on a high-level in this industry without becoming a statistic.
Three things. Smart marketing, knowing the kind of client you want and figuring out what your niche is. A ton of guys complain about being treated like pieces of meat or being constantly haggled down but then they advertise with pictures of their asshole, videos of bareback fucking, copy that sounds like nails in a blender and bios that read like Helen Keller wrote them. You can be the prettiest show pony in the stable, but if you can’t be seen as someone who’s well-spoken, self-confident and naturally at ease in a variety of social situations, it’s unlikely you’re ever going to really transcend.
Playing devil’s advocate, I know several guys who don’t want to do trips or spend a ton of time with their clients. They want the in-and-out, fast money, turn and burn hour . While that’s never been my preference, I don’t fault those who want it, whether it be escort or client. Again, know who you are, what purpose you serve and market to that segment shamelessly. It not only makes for a happier client, but a happier you.
And when I begin sounding like Oprah, I know it’s time to wrap it up.
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